Monday, November 25, 2013

A Softened Heart


“I’m not going to your parents’ house for Thanksgiving, and that’s that!”  Nancy’s eyes threw daggers at her husband as she sat down to watch television.

Frank sighed and threw up his hands.  They’d had this argument the past two years ever since Nancy had a falling-out with his mother.  Frank knew his mother spoke her mind, and he’d talked to her about the way she’d hurt Nancy’s feelings.  His mother had tried to apologize to Nancy, but she’d closed her heart. 

Nancy, I miss not spending Thanksgiving with my parents; why can’t you understand that?  How would you feel if I refused to go to your parents’ home for Christmas?” Frank appealed.  Lord knows he’d prayed a lot about Nancy’s attitude toward his mom.

Nancy didn’t answer, but clicked on the TV.  The first words she heard startled her. 

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…” 

The minister went on to say, “This scripture from Ephesians 5: 21 to 33 talks about how husbands and wives need to submit to one another.  The husband must love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must respect her husband.  We read the same instruction in Titus 2 verse 5 that wives are to be subject to their own husbands so the word of God will not be ill-spoken of.”

Frank saw Nancy’s finger hover over the remote to change channels, but for some reason she didn’t change it. 

“Let’s not forget Ephesians 5:21 that says we are to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.  The teaching that wives must submit to their husbands has been very misunderstood and abused in some Christian circles.  Sometimes people get the idea that women are basically to be a doormat for their husbands to walk on, while the husband is given unlimited authority over his wife.  In spite of this distorted teaching, we cannot get around the fact that the Lord did say through Paul that wives are to submit to their husbands.  Just because a teaching isn’t popular is no reason to discard it.  Indeed we dare not. 

2 Timothy 3:16 tells us that all Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness. We need to humble our hearts to the Lord to be taught by Him.  The Word of God teaches that the husband is the head of the home, and the wife should respect his role.  The husband should understand that such leadership requires service – he is to be a ‘servant-leader!’  The wife should willingly submit to her husband’s God-given role and not try to wrest his role away from him and upstage him.  The truth is, they are to submit to one another as they submit to Christ in their lives.  The husband is to love his wife, and the wife is to respect her husband.  This is pleasing to the Lord.”

Nancy turned the TV off and looked over at Frank.  He saw her face soften. 

“I’m sorry, Frank; I’ve not been respecting your leadership.  Please forgive me.”

Frank never felt more loved by his wife than at that moment as they embraced. 

Nancy reached for the phone.  “Call your mother and tell her we accept her invitation to spend Thanksgiving with them.”

God bless you, dear reader!

*All Scriptures are from the NIV unless otherwise noted.

Copyright © 2013 Elaine Beachy

  

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